Masturbation/Sex after the operation

This is a section that I waited a month or so to write. I suppose it is one which most people will be curious about, so I will be as honest as possible about it. Depending on where you obtain your information, you will be told that it will be anywhere between 3 and 6 weeks until you can use your penis for any sort of physical activity. Again, I am simply talking from personal experience here. Do not take this as any sort of medical advice!

My surgeon told me that my stitches should begin to drop out or dissolve between 2 and 3 weeks after the operation. I think it was nearer 3 weeks that they started to actually, but I think this was because I tend to take showers, not baths.

He told me that I would be able to return to sex “about 3-4 weeks after surgery, provided the wound had healed and there was no risk of aggravating or opening it.

My problem is that I have a higher than average sex drive and I found that, by around day 10, I was becoming pretty bothered by not being able to ‘relieve myself’. I scoured the internet looking for a website that would tell me that it was ok to masturbate this early on. And, well, I found one…

So on day 10, I masturbated for the first time since surgery. All I can say is DON’T! Like I have already said, achieving an erection is not a problem, despite the fact that it will still be pretty painful to get one at this point. However, it does not feel good once you achieve orgasm, and I believe it probably put your stitches at risk. I was able to bring myself to orgasms, but the movement and swelling in my penis as I got there seriously made it feel like my stitches were going to move, and the whole experience was pretty painful, meaning that it serves as no relief at all. My wife actually believes that, at the time, a part of the wound looked like it had stretched a little. On reflection, I was probably lucky not to have to return to hospital to get this see to.

So, when to ACTUALLY do it?

My stitches began to drop out just before three weeks was up. By this point, the wounds looked pretty much healed, and everything felt pretty good. It no longer hurt to get an erection, so I decided to give it another go.

This time was much more of a success! You will still have to be VERY GENTLE. Remember, you are still healing and stitched up. If you are rough or too vigorous, you could still end up back in hospital, and then you are back to square one.

One thing which you will have to prepare yourself for is the fact that you may well now need some sort of lubricant in order to masturbate. You may never have thought about this before, but it is the movement of the foreskin over the glans which causes sensation. If you have no foreskin, there is no movement! Therefore, you need to use lubricant to allow your hand to do the job. In my experience, you will find that things are much, much better than they were before your operation. You should feel a lot more, and your orgasm will probably be a lot more intense than before. You will certainly be glad you had the operation!

As for sex, it is now one month after my operation, and I am still waiting for three of my stitches to drop out. I have been advised not to have penetrative sex until all stitches have been removed.

As I say, many websites advise that you wait 6 weeks before even masturbating. Well, I am not medically trained at all, but I would suggest that you should be able to at least masturbate after three (provided you are very careful), and that sex should be ok after 4, provided you have healed totally, and your stitches have come out. Obviously, if you feel you are healing slowly, or if you experience excessive bleeding or infection, then these figures will not apply to you.